TRUST

"It takes a second to destroy trust, but a lifetime to build"

I actually really don't know how much I can agree with this.  It really doesn't take a lifetime in order to have trust between two people.  It's possible to have known someone for a short while and completely trust them.  It's the way they carry them self, the decisions they make, things they do and choices they make that'll affect you. The past is usually a strong indicator of how trustworthy someone is,too.  Not saying that the past should dictate who or how the person is, but in some instances, people just don't change, or they just aren't capable of changing because they really don't want to. Sometimes.  Putting all this into consideration, I think you can determine how much you can trust someone without having to have known them for a lifetime.

As for trust taking a second to destroy, I honestly believe that if there was a strong sense of trust to begin with, there isn't any way to really destroy it in a matter of second(s).  It's a process of active engagement that obliterates any sense of trust a person may have had or has. It would have definitely taken more than a second for someone to continuously make a series of mistake that could ruin any trust.  There must have been a perpetual cycle or an ongoing issue one was unaware of in order to lose trust in someone.

Anyways, I think after the trust is broken, it takes a while to repair. It just takes time.

NO publicity is BAD publicity :)

"People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered; Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway. If you are successful you will win some false friends and true enemies; Succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway. The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you've got anyway. You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God; It was never between you and them anyway." --Mother Teresa

This has been my favorite quote since high school because it retains much truth in so many ways. No matter what you say or do, there will always be someone else out there who has something to say about it or an opinion formulated that sheds negative light upon the situation.  There will always be someone out there trying to bring you down and do what they can to prevent you from whatever it is.  Knowing this, you should do what it is that PLEASES you. Do what makes you happy. Let the haters talk. There's always going to be someone talking anyways, so instead of trying to do things to please other people or gain their approval, do what your heart tells you to do.

It took me all throughout high school and some of college to actually put this into action. I hate it when people talk about me or mention me because what i do really shouldn't be the subject of anyone else' conversation.  It really wasn't until recently when a certain situation ran its course and then became out of hand... that made me realize, as much as I tried to stay away from any gossip, I still ended up being talked about. It definitely wasn't in a good way either.  No matter how much I tried to keep my personal life out of any "limelight" it just so happens people will eventually find out anyway.  All in all, after all the hurt and embarrassment, I definitely realized that people will always be talking. At the end of the day, shying away from the truth isn't going to stop people from talking. Nor will my denial justify the situation.  In the end, I think I made the right choice.  Well, I don't know if it's RIGHT per se.. yet, but I know I followed my heart and I did what I would've wanted to be done for me.  Second chances are always good to have because everyone makes mistakes and deserve to be forgiven or at least the chance to learn from their mistakes so they can improve to become a better person. So coming to terms with that, being talked about isn't too bad... after all, no publicity is BAD publicity...just TOO much publicity can make the audience weary. so lets try to put a limit on it HATERs. :)